* or my Higher Self.

For those who follow me on social media, you probably know I went speed dating last month. And you may have already seen my Dad Joke. Here it is again, for your entertainment…

On the day of the speed dating event, I was feeling so tired. I had had a busy week with some assessments due on the same day. I also had a kinesiology appointment that afternoon, and the kinesiologist could only do a survival balance as my body kept getting stressed out. 

I was feeling very low energy after the kinesiology session – albeit very chilled – I was very much in the mood of curling up on the couch under a blanket and hibernating from the world, and I was so NOT in the mood to go speed dating. 

I ended up having a 30-minute shower to ground myself (unintentionally), thus I ran out of time for make-up so I went fresh-faced. I was going to the speed dating event with a friend so I had to show up. 

I ended up having a great night. It was a lot of fun. I enjoyed socialising and having awesome conversations with most people. I had an energising chat with one guy who is an African conga drummer; we chatted about Latin rhythms, music and dance - Salsa, Tango, Bolero, etc, which I loved (given I am a Latin Dance teacher). 

The next day however, I was feeling quite down and had a crying session. When I couldn’t get to sleep, I ended up journaling. 

In the book "Conversations with God Book 1" by Neale Donald Walsch, the author shares this question-and-answer technique he used to get the content for the series of Conversations with God books. Although I’d not done it in ages, I have used this same technique and find it a useful way to get clarity and find my truth. 

So, I started asking myself questions – writing them out in my journal – then an answer would come which I would write out as well. So, it becomes this writing dialogue in my journal. 

For example, here are two questions I asked, followed by the responses I received back.

​Question:
How do I love more of myself – more parts of myself?

Response:

Just that! Love your face, love your belly, love all the parts of your body that you don’t prefer. Love your hyperness. Love your silliness. Love your power. Love your anger. Love your quirks. Love your blocks.

Everything is perfect. You are perfect.

It’s not DO – it’s LOVING.

Just focus on the love, the expansion, the fun, the excitement.

Question:
As per Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, I feel I’m NOT solid in the second layer and my focus right now is MONEY, HEALTH and HOME. Do I surrender dating?

Response:

No, think of it as part of your social life. It’s about having fun. It’s not about the dating. 

Focus on FUN. Follow the fun, be social, connect, get hyped up and energised by the conversations you’re having. 

You’ve focused on the outcome of getting romantic interest. 

The focus is on what is fun right now – or rather the focus is on having fun right now – and rediscovering that fun, playful, cheeky and flirty part of yourself. The girly side. 

So dress up, wear makeup, feel sexy – not for the men – FOR YOU!

-- 

Through this process, I realised I was focused on the OUTCOME, like the dopamine hit of getting a like on Facebook. I was chasing the result of getting someone romantically interested in me rather than focusing on having FUN. To be honest, I just wanted attention. 

So after journalling, I released the negative meaning I’d created and instead acknowledged what a fun night I had, how much enjoyed having conversations with lovely people and how grateful I am for these opportunities to meet new people. 

On a final note, I also observed myself apologising/making excuses for my hyped energy to one of my dates, a good-looking Ben Affleck lookalike. 

My learning from this observation? To accept and own ALL of myself. 

PS I highly recommend Conversations with God Book 1. 

YOUR TURN...

• Grab your journal and a pen.
• Write out a question you’d like an answer to and see what comes through.
• Continue the "conversation" until you say goodbye (like you would with a person). 
• Perhaps you could start with: How do I accept, own and love all of myself?

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Last Saturday, I held the space for the "Remembering Your Authentic Voice" women's circle. 

During the intuitive dance, I really got that I LOVE INTUITIVE DANCE and that I could just do the intuitive dance events. And when one of the beautiful souls mentioned afterwards that she'd never been to a circle with intutive dance, I realised, oh, that's MY THING. That's what makes me and my women's circles different.  I'd been struggling with creating a point of difference as there are a LOT of women's circles out there.

My body loves to move and in that movement process, I find myself releasing "stuff" - such as emotions, stories, limiting beliefs, masks, etc. In this space emerges clarity where I can hear the messages from my heart and my soul so much more clearly. It's a process I really benefit from and obviously love. And it was participating in Kundalini Dance Journeys that got me started on that pathway!

So I am inspired to bring the intuitive dance component to the forefront of my Wild & Wise Women's Circles. That's why moving forward, I'll be promoting my events as Wild & Wise Women: Intuitive Dance & Sacred Circle (and as always, that name is a work in progress!). 

In addition, during the women's circle on Saturday, I was recommending a lot of resources around dance, intimacy, connection events, fun and excitement - which I'd love to share with you as well!

>> RESOURCES <<

Take what works for you and ignore the rest.
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Authentic Relating International (global)

This is a global organisation. Authentic relating is the practice of relating to others with vulnerability, honesty and an open heart. I've done the level 1 course online and have attended an online session. However, I've yet to attend a Brisbane meetup.

• https://www.facebook.com/brisbaneauthentics (Brisbane)
• https://authenticrelating.co/ (global)

Bree Taylor Molyneux (Brisbane)

I love how Bree talks about expanding your range. I recommend Heart-Led Intimacy (an intro level offering which I'm doing again in July) and Fierce Love Immersion events. I haven't tried the more advanced events as yet. 
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• https://www.breetaylormolyneaux.com.au/
• https://www.facebook.com/BreeTaylorMolyneaux
• https://www.instagram.com/breetaylormolyneaux/
  

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Making Space For Fear 

There was a discussion around making space for fear on the road trip of your life is from the book "Big Magic" by Elizabeth Gilbert (who also wrote "Eat Pray Love"). 

I did a video about this last year and read out the letter to fear. 

Check it out here (Wild & Wise Blog)


Follow Your Excitement 

This is from Bashar, a channelled energy through Darryl Anka in the USA. Bashar provides the instruction manual for how life works:

• Act on your highest passion** every moment that you can.
• Do it to the best you can, taking it as far as you can until you can take it no further. 
• Do it with no insistence, zero assumption whatsoever on what the outcome is supposed to be. 
• Stay in a positive state no matter what manifests. Because whatever it is that manifests has got to be there for a reason. Even if it’s something that you objectively don’t prefer. If nothing else, manifesting something you don’t prefer gives you a much clearer picture by contrast of what you do prefer. 

** Passion includes all of its expressions - excitement, happiness, joy, creativity, love. 

Source:

• https://www.gaia.com/video/bashar-channeled-darryl-anka-power-paradox 
  (Gaia subscription required)

Here's a video I found on YouTube explaining this:

• https://youtu.be/DrzsaVs5eJU?feature=shared

Fun! 

In the latest newsletter from The Playful Warrior, Kara shared about the Space Elevator:

• https://neal.fun/space-elevator/ 
• https://www.theplayfulwarrior.com/
• https://www.instagram.com/theplayfulwarrior

When reading one of Brene Brown's book (I think it's in The Gifts of Imperfection - highly recommended), she quotes Dr Stuart Brown, founder of the National Institute for Play: https://nifplay.org/

"The opposite of play is not work - the opposite of play is DEPRESSION"
~ Dr Stuart Brown


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My Top 5 Learnings from Money Magic

Earlier this week, I was in the fabulously gorgeous Mooloolaba (on the Sunshine Coast, Queensland) for the two-day live event portion of a Money Magic course I signed up for. And I’d love to share some of my learnings.

Learning #1 - Successful People Prioritise Rest and Recovery

When the Money Magic course facilitator (Emma Greyson) expanded on the statement "successful people prioritise rest and recovery", it was a HUGE epiphany for me.

When I show up rested and recuperated, I’m showing up at a higher vibration. I’m saying to the universe: 

I AM PRIORITISING MYSELF.
I AM RAISING MY STANDARDS.
I AM READY TO ATTRACT AT A HIGHER LEVEL. 

When I’m showing up as exhausted and depleted, I’m showing up at a lower vibration. It’s no wonder then that my money is also showing up as exhausted and depleted!!

I'd heard the quote: you need to slow down to speed up. I kinda got it. But really, I didn't. This vibration piece is the missing link for me! 

I have been pushing myself and chasing money. I’m tired, exhausted and currently not 100% well either (with a head cold for the last two weeks that just doesn't seem to go away)!

What is this state of being (tired, exhausted and unwell) saying to the universe? What is it saying to that which I desire to attract into my life?

Is abundance, joy and wealth attracted to exhaustion and depletion?
Um, HELL NO!

Would abundance, joy and wealth be magnetised to rest and recovery?
I would say, DEFINITELY YES!

Yes, because being rested and looking after myself opens the space up for me to receive – because I’m already receiving care for myself. When I allow myself to be cared for, I open up to allow money and the universe to care for me too. It's another reminder for me to give to myself first that which I wish to receive.

Learning #2 - Redefining Money, Being Rich and Wealth

When investigating my money beliefs, I uncovered that being rich for me relates to the image of a “Selling Sunset” modern, Barbie-type of woman – long GHD-straightened hair, false jeweled nails, huge fake eyelashes, breast implants, glossy filler-infused lips and a designer wardrobe. Like, not me. And I don’t want to be that.

So, if I don’t want to be “rich” (according to this narrow, negative definition), then why would money come to me? There was a conflict. Wherever there is conflict, there is no flow and no alignment.

So, my homework is to redefine what RICH means to ME in a resourceful, aligned way. 

Learning #3 - Know my Numbers

We played a money game on the first day, which I disliked intensely and I was just waiting for it to be over!

What I learned however was I needed to KNOW MY NUMBERS so that I can make informed decisions based on what was happening in my environment.

I MISSED OPPORTUNITIES because I didn’t know where I was at, I didn’t have a wealth strategy in place and I didn’t recognise the opportunities until it was too late. 

Note to Self: The game reflects my life!

Learning #4 - Stop Jumping Ahead in the Hierarchy of Needs
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During the course, we reviewed Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (refer image below).

We were invited to consider where we were trying to play at a higher level when the foundational needs hadn't been fully met.

​I realised I was playing in level 3 love and belonging and level 4 esteem, when there were money and health issues that needed my attention in level 2 safety needs.

The learning: get my needs met at one level before progressing higher on the pyramid! 

Credit: https://www.thoughtco.com/maslows-hierarchy-of-needs-4582571

​​Learning #5 - I have so much space to expand into!

​Upon doing my Financial Position Wheel, I was scoring myself quite low (0-1 out of 10) in every area (see image below).

Surprisingly, I wasn't bummed about this.

Instead, my frame was: look at how much space I have to expand into!! I have so many opportunities for growth!!

Perspective is everything! 

10 Tips for Holding Space for Yourself
 
1. Embracing Your Imperfection:

• This is about self-acceptance. 
• What parts of yourself are you not accepting?
• Where are you not bringing compassion to the imperfect parts of you?

2. Saying "No":

• My personal mantra is: A YES means it's a yes for me first AND a yes to the person/situation/choice, otherwise it's a NO.
• Where have you been saying YES to someone/something, but it's a NO for you?

3. Developing Boundaries:

• Where in your life are you carrying obligation? How can you now release this, so you can stand up for yourself and be more free to love yourself and others?

4. Communing With Yourself:

• I personally love connecting with nature. There's a set of trees along a walkway I normally go on; I put my hands on the trunk of the tree, then look up to watch the canopy sway in the breeze.
• I also love journalling and asking questions Conversations-with-God style.
• What do you do to commune with yourself? This could be music, art, journalling, meditation, connecting with nature, etc.

5. Listening:

• When do you take time to be alone, be still and listen internally?
• Getting to know yourself is the first step of awareness that starts the journey to healing.

6. Reaching For Support:

• Do you know your limits?
• How do you reach out for support when you need it?

7. Being Authentic: 

• What are you hiding from yourself?
• What are you afraid to see?

8. Being a Good Parent to Yourself: 

• The majority of us have grown up in dysfunctional families, so how are you reparenting yourself?

9. Develop Supportive Rituals:

• What is one thing you can do daily to check in with and nurture yourself?

10. The Wisdom With:

• What if holding space for yourself is less about the wisdom that’s out there and more about the wisdom that’s in you?
• What if you could let your intuitive and creative parts lead the way?
• There’s a good chance we’ve been conditioned to think it’s more complicated than that.

Your Turn...
What's your plan for holding space for yourself?

Next...

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Credits: 

• Azriel Reshel: https://uplift.love/how-to-hold-space-for-yourself/ 
• Patty Bechtold: https://wiselifetherapy.com/holding-space-for-yourself/

I’ve been very narrow-minded in my definition of abundance. And I am working on expanding my definition.

For example, I recently realised that I was receiving an abundance of wardrobe wealth. I was finding that numerous people were gifting me second-hand clothes. One of these people was someone I didn’t even know well at all! This is abundance.

I’m learning abundance isn’t just about money and finances. Abundance is so much broader than that. 
 
Looking back. I realise I’ve lived by a narrow definition of abundance in the past. I've been wanting to attract certain things into my life, yet I had such a narrow definition of those things, that it’s virtually impossible to see it and receive it. It was like I was playing SNAP. I was waiting for the EXACT card to look a specific way and to show up in a certain way in order to get a match. So, I didn’t SEE anything that wasn’t an EXACT MATCH.
 
I realised that the universe was offering me what I wanted, yet my narrow definition didn’t allow me to SEE it, let alone RECEIVE IT. This is something that I want to highlight – because I’ve been affirming about receiving abundance, however, first I had to see the abundance and recognise the abundance opportunity in order to receive it.
 
This is what my problem was – the abundance was THERE, but my narrow definition created filters in my mind that didn’t allow me to recognise that which I’d wished for. I had tunnel vision.

Where do you have tunnel vision in your life?

I invite you to grab a pen and notebook and journal on these questions:

1. What is your current definition of abundance? What does abundance mean to you? Is it just money and finances? Or is it broader?
2. What do you currently desire to be, do and have in your life? How would you like abundance to show up in your life?
3. How could you expand your definition to see opportunities that may already be waiting for you?
4. Think back over the past week or month. Where have already received abundance and/or that which you desire, but hadn't acknowledged it as such?

When you've finished journalling, I invite you to close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.

• Remind yourself of all the abundance opportunities that you have already received.
• Be thankful for what you've already received. 
• Feel into your heart space and expand your energy out into the world. 
• Be in a state of gratitude for what is waiting for you. 

Next:

• There are heaps of resources about Bashar on YouTube and Gaia. I can spend hours and hours devouring his content! I found a short video from Bashar about how to achieve abundance here. ​
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HOW I'M LEARNING TO UNMASK

Yesterday, in a mastermind I’m in, we were invited to pull oracle/tarot cards to receive messages for the month of October 2023. 

The first card that flew out as I was clearing the deck and shuffling was: 18 Jumbie: Masks (from the African Goddess Rising Oracle Deck by Abiola Abrams)

My initial messages from the card were: 

• Take off the masks
• Stop hiding
• Be willing to be seen for who I really am

​1. TAKING OFF THE MASKS
 
If I’m guided to take off the masks, I first wonder: what masks am I showing to the world?
 
The biggest mask is that I HAVE MY SHIT TOGETHER. This mask says I’m taking full responsibility for my life; I’m positive and cheerful all the time; and that my businesses are successful enough to cover my living expenses.
 
BULLSHIT!
 
I do NOT have my shit together.

I am NOT taking full responsibility for my life and my businesses. I have been making excuses and blaming external circumstances. I am NOT fully showing up because I’m scared. How can I have my shit together if I’m not owning where I’m at and I’m not committing to what I desire?

I am NOT positive and cheerful all the time. Sometimes I’m anxious, lack-focused and worrying about a future that doesn’t yet exist – but it will (be my future) if most of my thoughts are on scarcity.
 
My realisation is that I have a limiting belief that I don’t have my shit together enough to serve others (in my Wild & Wise business).
 
Currently, I’m creating a circle program which I think will be called Radical Rebirth (inspired by the second card I pulled for my October messages). The program will be about unlearning and releasing who you’re not, unveiling your soul’s truth and living in alignment with your authentic self. This is a program FOR ME. What I mean is that that this Radical Rebirth is part of my personal journey. And I would love to call in other women on a similar path to co-create a movement to become our truest selves. There’s power in joining a group with a common goal and having the divine feminine energies rise to magnetise balance and harmony on the planet.
 
An affirmation from Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Body, which I think is perfect for me right now, is:
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I move forward with confidence and joy, knowing all is well in my future.

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2. STOP HIDING
 
The Shadow Guidance from the 18 Jumbie Masks card is:

​Where is the lie? Get quiet to get clear. Am I confused or afraid?
 
I’m not confused. I have amazing moments of clarity. Then my mood/emotions change and the doubts creep in, especially when I haven’t taken action on the clarity.
 
The truth is I am SHIT SCARED.
 

• What if it doesn’t work?
• What if I fall flat on my face and look like a f***ing idiot?
• What if I waste my time, energy and money on this for nothing?
• What if people don’t like me?
• What if people don’t find value from what I offer?
• What if I’m not good enough?
• What if I get what I want and I lose it?
• What if I fail, lose everything and have to start again?

 
Under all of this is…
 
What if I don’t have what it takes to be successful in business?
 
What I’m realising is that: when I allow my fear to stop me, I am guaranteed of failing and having to start all over again. Right?!
 
Ironically, I am already “starting again” with my Wild & Wise Business. I keep saying “my new business”, but it’s really my second business. Technically, Wild & Wise is actually my THIRD business – I started Discover the Oracle Within, my first life coaching business, in 2004!
 
I am afraid of losing it all, myself included. The problem is by hiding behind the masks, I’m losing myself anyway. I’m not being my authentic self with a mask on. If I don’t FULLY show up and commit, then it’s definitely NOT going to work.
 
I cannot attract my true tribe with a mask on. They will be attracted to my mask, and not to me. Stepping into my authentic self means I attract my real tribe. I wish to magnetise people/things to the REAL ME, and not to my mask.


3. BE WILLING TO BE SEEN FOR WHO I REALLY AM

This is scary because it means I’m opening myself up to judgement and criticism. 

Then I think about a recent post from @jonhillstead on Instagram:

Instead of showing up and focusing on the people who might judge you or criticize you. Show up for the people who are waiting to be led by you. The people who are waiting to be inspired by your story, the people who are waiting to be activated by your voice, the people who are waiting to receive your medicine. Show up for those people!

What if I focus on showing up for the people who need me to shine my light? 

Who would I need to become?

• Someone who shows up and provides value
• Someone who is visible and makes offers
• Someone who is committed and resourceful
• Someone who moves with their fears and doubts
• Someone who does the work to get their shit together
• Someone who is their own biggest cheerleader
• Someone who believes they’re capable of success right now
• Someone who focuses on everything working out

I am willing to be seen for who I really am – because how people respond to me isn’t actually about me; it’s about THEM. 

Interestingly, after sorting out the crap in my bedroom on the weekend, I reconnected with an affirmation card that was on my bedside table:

It is safe and satisfying for me to be seen for who I really am. 

(From: Joyful Abundance by Kris Franken)

Side Note: I looked up the meaning of the number 18 (from the oracle card that flew out). According to iPublishing.co.in...

Angel Number 18 is a symbol of transformation, spiritual growth, and infinite possibilities. It is believed to be a sign from the divine realm, encouraging us to draw strength from our own inner wisdom and understanding that anything is possible with the right attitude.

Yep, I think that is a perfect message for me right now!

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​WHAT NOW?

I created a new manifesto:

• I am enough.
• I have everything I need right now.
• I am successful.
• Everything that happens is for my growth.
• I move forward with confidence and joy, knowing all is well in my future.
• It is safe and satisfying for me to be seen for who I really am. 
• I show up for the people waiting to receive my unique medicine.
• I build businesses with ease that allow for balance and freedom in my life.

YOUR TURN

1. Where in your life are you not fully showing up? 
2. What lies are you telling yourself? 
3. What masks are you hiding behind? 
4. Where do you need to take responsibility/ownership? 
5. What is the cost of keeping those masks on, of not taking responsibility, of not showing up fully? 
6. What’s in the way of you being seen for who you really are?
7. What is your new manifesto?

What did you realise about yourself through this process? I would love to know, so please comment below or post in my Wild & Wise Circle Community (private Facebook group) here.

Sending you love, light and abundance,
Olga xx

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As I was cleaning my windows last weekend, I was listening to Spotify and John Farnham’s “You’re the Voice” came on. I listened to the song over and over because it spoke to me. How do I understand my voice? Where am I sitting in silence? Where am I living with fear? And what came up for me was GOLD!

​Here are some lyrics:

We have the chance to turn the pages over
We can write what we want to write
We gotta make ends meet, before we get much older
…
You're the voice, try and understand it
Make a noise and make it clear
…
We're not gonna sit in silence
We're not gonna live with fear
…
This time, we know we all can stand together
With the power to be powerful
Believing we can make it better

I was inspired in several ways. 
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You can listen to the song above as you read my blog post!

First, I felt the pull towards something bigger for my life, to dive deeper and to get clearer on what I’m a stand for.

Second, I realised how easy it was to create from inspiration. I had this limiting belief that, as a women’s circle facilitator, I couldn’t create any circle outlines from scratch – that it was too hard and I wasn’t creative enough. It was easier to use the resources I’d purchased. However, listening to this song, I got so many ideas on how I could run a circle on reclaiming your voice (and write this blog post). It was EASY to capture ideas from ONE source of inspiration.

I WAS LIT UP.

I realised I want to dive deeper in my circles, in my gatherings for women. I didn’t want the shorter, one-hour circles. I want to be more deeply connected. I want women to be transformed and connected in circle. I want to create a container to hold women on their journey to reclaim their voice, their desires, and their lives. I want to make a bigger impact through circle programs running over 6-12 weeks. I want to run circle programs that I created, not borrowed from others. 

I realised that creation is important to me because it fuels my soul and because my creations give me a way to heal the souls of others. I hadn’t realised how important creativity was for my soul. I’d been so focused on going the easy route by using resources I’d already paid for, that I’d forgotten about bringing my essence to circle, to women, to people.

I was being generic. I was buying into the cookie cutter approach.

Having recently attended a Feminine Facilitation training with Sistership Circle, I learned that I need to stop explaining what a women’s circle is, and instead focus on describing the transformation that women will get by working with me. I thought about the first version of my website launched last week with the circle schedule for the next three months.

And, I’ve gotta be honest, my website is generic. It describes what a women’s circle is. It does not talk about the transformation. Where is my Olga secret sauce? [Crickets] My website content could be copy on ANY circle website. Time to work on the second version of my website content!

This lesson prompted me to ask: How can show up as my authentic, unique and vulnerable self and communicate what makes me and my circles different? Otherwise, how can my audience know whether I’m a fit for them or not? 

I realised I am, yet again, trying to fit myself and my business into someone else’s mould. URGH!

My mission in my business has been harmonising the divine masculine and feminine energies. Now I realise that’s part of the how, not the what - or at least not the DEEPEST what. 

The transformation I desire to create is to empower women to move from fear, doubt and overwhelm to feeling free to be themselves and living a life aligned with their truth.

Working with the divine masculine and feminine energies wasn’t the highest outcome.

The highest vision is the FREEDOM to be yourself and to live your life your way, by YOUR RULES. 

You can channel Frank Sinatra and sing… I DID IT MY WAAYYY! 

So, where am I sitting in silence?

I discovered that I’m STILL subconsciously fitting myself into a mould, people pleasing and seeking external validation. It’s so pervasive! ARGH!

I need to develop myself through:
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• TRUSTING myself
• HONOURING my soul’s voice
• Going MY OWN WAY (Feel free to sing: Go Your Own Way by Fleetwood Mac)
• LIVING my truth, desires and dreams
• CLAIMING my right to take up space in the world

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Because I have unique gifts that offer real value to the world. I believe my medicine is a concoction of circles, coaching and dance.

ARGH, I’ve done it again. 

That is soooo GENERIC. 

My intuition says: Go deeper, Olga.

SIGH.

Then it hits me: IT’S MY JOURNEY TO FREE MYSELF.

There were tears when I wrote this. Emotion is a signal from my soul. It’s a SOUL SIGNAL (I like this phrase). 

My unique gifts lie in my journey to free myself, so I can heal my inner child, inner teenager and inner young adult – and I can teach others to do the same. 

I haven’t been valuing my life’s journey, the experience I’ve had, the insights and transformations that have helped me grow and expand into the version of Olga I am today. 

I HAVE BEEN DEVALUING MYSELF. 

Wow, that realisation HURTS. 

Where do I need to free myself? Where can I honour my journey more deeply? 

Know that who I am is worthy, intelligent, and real. I AM REAL. My soul is real. I am not someone else’s avatar. I create me; I create my life; I create my business.

I free myself through trusting myself. I follow the nudges and insights through manifestation into reality. 

My higher self reminds me:

• You are free to be you. You are free to live your life your way.
• Seek your truth. Understand your voice. Make it clear in your self-expression. Be You. 
• ​And to channel Dr Seuss...

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​I free myself by letting go of needing to be liked. I’m not here to serve everyone. Trying to serve everyone dilutes what I offer and spreads my energy to the point of exhaustion. This was a lesson I learned in my other business, BoogieCamp, but that’s a story for another day.

What I’m learning is to pay attention to what lights me up, then go shine my light and be the lighthouse. And, "like a moth to a flame", trust that my tribe will be magnetised to my light. Sing: That’s the Way Love Goes by Janet Jackson).

Message #1: 
Where am I still being bound by pleasing others, getting approval or validation, and trying to fit myself into a mould?

​(By the way, trying to fit myself into a mould was exactly why my first attempt at life coaching back in 2004 to 2006 failed. But that’s another blog post.)

Message #2: 
The learnings and insights from my life’s journey and experiences are valuable lessons for others. No other magical potions are required. 

You’re the voice, try and understand it
Make a noise and make it clear
We’re not gonna sit in silence
We’re not gonna live with fear
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So, are you with me? Will you join me in reclaiming your voice? Or will you sit in silence and live with fear? 

I invite you to integrate... 

Take some time out and set yourself up with your notebook, pen and favourite journalling beverage. Close your eyes and take a slow, nourishing breath in through your nose and slowly exhale through your mouth. Repeat this a few times. Then, open your eyes and I invite you to reflect on these questions.

1. You’re the voice. What does your voice want to say? Where do you need more clarity on what you’re standing for?
2. Where are you sitting in silence or living with fear?
3. What does it mean for you to be the you-est YOU?
4. Where are you being bound by pleasing others, getting approval or validation, and trying to fit yourself into a mould? 
5. How can you free yourself from the mould and honour your life’s journey more deeply?
6. What is your soul signal?

What did you realise about yourself through this process? Feel free to share by commenting below or by posting in my Wild & Wise Circle Community (private Facebook group) here.

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Love, light and abundance,
Olga xx

Lesson 1: Responsibility

I need to take responsibility for my business and my RESULTS. I'm holding back - I'm just dipping my toe in, instead of diving into the deep end. I’ve been overwhelmed by and not fully accepting the massive gap between what I desire to create and where I am now.

Lesson 2: Plan & Focused Action

I need to put a plan in place and take aligned action. I’ve been caught up in toxic productivity and the doing, doing, doing. There’s a part of me that wants to skip the planning, because it feels like a waste of time. I seem to value any action I’ve DONE (whether aligned or not) and not what I’ve PLANNED.

What I need to remember is: my plan creates the pathway towards my vision and all I need to DO is take the steps along that pathway.

Lesson 3: Healthier Relationship with Failure

I love space documentaries – SpaceX working to create reusable rockets and, more recently, the James Webb Space Telescope sent out in space to take pictures of the first galaxies using infrared radiation.
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There are brilliant minds at work to solve these big problems – yet they never succeed first time round. So, why am I expecting myself to?

The James Webb Space Telescope had 344 single-point failures before launch (a single-point failure means if one thing fails, the whole mission is a bust).

And I’m reflecting:

Have I gotten to the stage of having 344 single-point failures in my business, so I can learn from those failures, those mistakes, and improve?

Um, that’s a big fat NO!
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So, what is stopping me from having a healthier relationship with fear and failure?

Block 1: Expecting Perfection & Absolute Clarity

I need to “get it right” the first time to avoid looking bad and stupid if I fail. This perfectionist tendency is showing up in two ways.

One, I want to see the whole staircase before I even take the first step.

Two, I want to perfect the process before I start the process.

I don’t like sitting in the discomfort of uncertainty, so I have become a course whore (yep, I said it). I’m chasing all this information so I can perfect my process. I’ve become great at learning stuff but not great at implementing stuff.

My lesson is that… the only way I can perfect the process is by doing the process, then improving it along the way.
And who am I kidding? The process is never going to be “perfect” anyways. What are the chances that I'll get a text from the universe saying, “Your perfect process is complete! Please start your perfect plan and your success is guaranteed. Love, Universe.”

Block 2: Not Feeling the Fear

I've been putting so much energy in resisting feeling the fear that I'm exhausted!
I know that I need to hold space for my fear and allow myself to feel it, but I personally have struggled with this.
When somebody else holds the space for my fear, I give myself permission to feel it. I get a few shivers and the fear energy has passed through my body in less than 30 seconds (even though I may have been resisting the fear for days/weeks/months).

In the end, I feel lighter because the energy I’ve been using to resist the fear has been released.

I asked myself: How do I feel the fear for myself? What else is a block?

My nudge was to re-read the book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” by Susan Jeffers.

Then: Write out what it is you fear. Why do you fear it? How does it feel in your body? What am I worried will happen?

I asked again: What else is a block?

Response: Have you practised feeling the fear by doing things that stretch your comfort zone?

Then, I asked myself: What does fear feel like? How does it show up for me?

I finally got clear that my fear behaviours are self sabotage, busyness, overscheduling beyond my capacity and the perfectionist tendences mentioned above. In my body, I get a tight chest and tension in my jaw, neck and shoulders. I feel weighed down by a yoke.

I realised overscheduling beyond my capacity is linked with my fear of not being enough. I feel I need to DO more to feel ENOUGH. I’m overwhelmed, always busy, not allowing myself to slow down or focus on one thing at a time, and not stopping to pause, breathe and absorb my current experience.

My final insight:
I haven’t been allowing myself to pause, to be fully present and to absorb the richness of my present moment... YEAH (sigh of realisation), because there’s a lot of JUICE in the present moment.

What did you resonate with as I shared my journey with fear? 

Your Turn...

Find a quiet spot. Grab your notebook and pen. Take a few deep breaths to arrive into the present moment. Journal on these prompts.

1. Pick an area of your life and IDENTIFY your fears.
2. How is that fear SHOWING UP in your behaviour?
3. How are you experiencing that fear in your body as a feeling or
4. sensation?
5. How are you RESISTING sitting with and feeling this fear?
6. What LESSON does that fear have for you?
7. What is BLOCKING you from implementing these lessons?
8. What ACTIONS will you take moving forward?

What insights did you get from this journalling process?

I would love to hear about your insights, so feel free to comment below or postin my Wild & Wise Circle Community private Facebook group here. 

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Sending you love, light and abundance,
Olga
xx

My experience has been that since I have chosen women’s circles as the path of least resistance because it’s in juicy alignment with my vision, I have more juice, more excitement, more energy, and more capacity to invest in the EFFORT to travel down that path.

What may seem like the past of least EFFORT could be easy to begin with (because we get to stay in our comfort zone) and becomes harder down the track (because it is out of alignment).

So, I invite you to explore your path of least resistance and what is in juicy alignment with your vision

👉 Step 1:

Choose a vision/goal/intention that lights you up

👉 Step 2:

What is the past of least resistance? What is in juicy alignment with your vision?

👉 Step 3:

Step into sacred simplicity. For everything on your plate right now, ask yourself: Is this in juicy alignment with my vision/goal/intention? If the answer is no, then I invite you to shelve it, reduce your commitment to it, or change your emotional/energetic connection to it, so it’s no longer taking up physical, energetic or emotional space on your plate.

👉 Step 4:

Notice whether there is an increase in your capacity, your energy and your excitement to put the effort into the areas that allow you to get closer to your vision

I would love to know what came up for you, so please comment below or post in my Wild & Wise Circle Community private Facebook group here. 

​NEXT...

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Sending you love, light and abundance,
Olga
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I read Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert today, all in one go (I'm very proud of myself!).

I love the passage around making space for your fear and writing a letter to fear about your road trip in life.

Check out my video below...